Father's Day 2020

This is the first year that Father’s day has come while my Father is no more. Though I am not a huge fan of Father’s day but the fact that my Dad passed away 6 months back still seems so surreal. The inability to call him and talk about various things flashed today soon after I got up this morning. The feeling of not ever able to talk to my Dad was accentuated when my daughters called out Happy Father’s day.

This is the letter that I received from Didi today on this occasion. She has encouraged me to write more. Will try to do that as much as I can. 

As she is slowly planning her move to New York to start her law school, the significance of this day is becoming more vivid. I feel that I should become like roots - invisible but strong; the more kids reach for glorious heights in their life, the deeper in soil should I go to support them from falling. Let’s see if I can ever do that.

This is the letter that I received from Chotu today morning. So

cute. She is correct to point out my concern about summer solstice. I like that.

She also writes about difference in opinion but what she does not know is many times I try to bring on different or contradicting views than hers to help her appreciate the other side without getting angry or overwhelmed. Life is good because of inherent contradictions and she will become a much better person (she already is) once she realizes this inherent life’s contradictions. I am proud of her the way she is evolving as a thoughtful, compassionate and mature young woman.